The dark nurturing power of shame
When I read Brené Brown on what shame does to us, I find her describing a dark nurturing of dyspathy:
“When we feel shame, we are most likely to protect ourselves by blaming something or someone, rationalizing our lapse, offering a disingenuous apology, or hiding out.”
“Shame is much more likely to be the cause of destructive and hurtful behaviors than it is to be the solution…. shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.”
Dyspathy, fertilised by shame, can work to prevent empathy.